For do I now persuade men or Elohim? Or do I seek to please men? For I yet pleased men, I would not be a slave of Messiah.
One lesson I am learning in life is people pleasing. This is a strong hold that has affected me most of my life. I have always strived for the approval of man. I have always given 100% and never said no even when I wanted to. I found myself always saying I am sorry even when an apology was never needed. I spent more time trying to justify myself when I did not need to. This strong hold has brought anxiety, fear and low self-esteem in me and even soul ties that are unhealthy. I have allowed what people think of me to overrule what My Father in heaven thinks of me.
People pleasing is really you given them control over your thoughts, emotions and self-esteem. It allows them to take advantage and use you as the scape goat. People pleasing is very unhealthy because you are allowing the opinions of men to define who you are. In 1 Samuel 16:7 the Father tells us that people look at the outward appearance and reject by what they see. Proverbs 29:25 tells us the fear of man brings a snare. When someone does not talk to you or seems different, the snare becomes tight around your neck because you immediately start thinking you did something wrong, and your mind begins to race to the point you have convinced yourself you have. (DO YOU SEE THE CONTROL THEY HAVE?)
People pleasing takes us from the safety net of the Father and into the safety net of men, because when we spend our time pleasing man it proves where our trust is. It is a journey that leads to the destruction of our mind, soul and body because we become slaves to man and the image we allow them to create.